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1.The story began when I was a child;
I was born as a son of a poor family.
Even for eating, we often got lack of food.
Whenever the time for eating, mother often gave me her portion of rice.
While she was removing her rice into my bowl,
she would say "Eat this rice, son. I'm not hungry".
That was Mother's First Lie

2.When I was getting to grow up,
the persevering mother gave her spare time for fishing in a river near our house,
she hoped that from the fishes she got,
she could gave me a little bit nutritious food for my growth.
After fishing, she would cook the fishes to be a fresh fish soup,
which raised my appetite. While I was eating the soup,
mother would sit beside me and eat the rest meat of fish,
which was still on the bone of the fish I ate.
My heart was touched when I saw it.
I then used my chopstick and gave the other fish to her.
But she immediately refused it and said "Eat this fish, son.
I don't really like fish."
That was Mother's Second Lie.

3.Then, when I was in Junior High School,
to fund my study,
mother went to an economic enterprise to bring some used-matches boxes that would be stuck in.
It gave her some money for covering our needs.
As the winter came,
I woke up from my sleep and looked at my mother who was still awoke,
supported by a little candlelight and within her perseverance she continued
the work of sticking some used-matches box.
I said, "Mother, go to sleep, it's late,
tomorrow morning you still have to go for work.
" Mother smiled and said "Go to sleep,
dear. I'm not tired."
That was Mother's Third Lie.

4.At the time of final term,
mother asked for a leave from her work in order to accompany me.
While the daytime was coming and the heat of the sun was starting to shine,
the strong and persevering mother
waited for me under the heat of the sun's shine for several hours.
As the bell rang, which indicated that the final exam had finished,
mother immediately welcomed me and poured me a glass of tea
that she had prepared before in a cold bottle.
The very thick tea was not as thick as my mother's love,
which was much thicker. Seeing my mother covering with perspiration,
I at once gave her my glass and asked her to drink too.
Mother said "Drink, son. I'm not thirsty!".
That was Mother's Fourth Lie.

5.After the death of my father because of illness,
my poor mother had to play her role as a single parent.
By held on her former job, she had to fund our needs alone.
Our family's life was more complicated. No days without sufferance.
Seeing our family's condition that was getting worse,
there was a nice uncle who lived near my house came to help us,
either in a big problem and a small problem.
Our other neighbors who lived next to us saw that our family's life was so unfortunate,
they often advised my mother to marry again. But mother,
who was stubborn, didn't care to their advice,
she said "I don't need love."
That was Mother's Fifth Lie.

6.After I had finished my study and then got a job,
it was the time for my old mother to retire.
But she didn't want to; she was sincere to go to the marketplace every morning,
just to sell some vegetable for fulfilling her needs.
I, who worked in the other city, often sent her some money to help her in fulfilling her needs,
but she was stubborn for not accepting the money.
She even sent the money back to me.
She said "I have enough money."
That was Mother's Sixth Lie.

7.After graduated from Bachelor Degree,
I then continued my study to Master Degree.
I took the degree, which was funded by a company through a scholarship program,
from a famous University in America.
I finally worked in the company. Within a quite high salary,
I intended to take my mother to enjoy her life in America.
But my lovely mother didn't want to bother her son,
she said to me "I'm not used to."
That was Mother's Seventh Lie.

8.After entering her old age,
mother got a flank cancer and had to be hospitalized.
I, who lived in miles away and across the ocean,
directly went home to visit my dearest mother.
She lied down in weakness on her bed after having an operation.
Mother, who looked so old, was staring at me in deep yearn.
She tried to spread her smile on her face;
even it looked so stiff because of the disease she held out.
It was clear enough to see how the disease broke my mother's body,
thus she looked so weak and thin.
I stared at my mother within tears flowing on my face.
My heart was hurt, so hurt, seeing my mother on that condition.
But mother, with her strength, said "Don't cry, my dear.
I'm not in pain."
That was Mother's Eight Lie.

After saying her eighth lie, She closed her eyes forever!

Dont hurt anyone
It only takes a few seconds to hurt people you love, and it can take years to heal.

Live today
There are two eternities that can really break you down. yesterday and tomorrow. one is gone and the other doesnt exist...so live today.

Marriage
Do not marry a person that you know that you can live with; only marry someone that you cannot live without.

Money
Money can buy everything but happiness.

Trust
It takes years to build trust and a few seconds to destroy it

Value
What is most valuable is not what you have in my life but who you have in your life

Every one knows the salary theorem establishes that engineers and scientists can never ever earn as much money as businessmen,salesmen,politicians and actors easily make.

This theorem can be demonstrated by reducing it to a simple mathematical equation:

The equation rests on two postulates:

Postulate no.1:Knowledge is power

Postulate no.2:Time is money

Given that:Power=Work/Time
and because:Knowledge=Power
and time= money

And therefore we have:Knowledge=Work/Money

We can now easily obtain:Money=Work/Kknowledge

so when knowledge goes towards zero, money goes towards infinity,
regardless of the value attributed to work, even if the values of work is very small.

On the contrary, when knowledge goes towards infinity, Money goes towards Zero,
even if the value of work is high.

The evident conclusion:The less you know, the more money you definitely make.

Those you who have had difficulty following this must make a lot of money!

Sardar & his wife going 2 city in auto....driver adjusted mirror..sardarji shouted u r seeing my wife...go & sit back i will drive the auto...

1 sardar puri life only 1 thing sochte sochte mar gaya ki mere to 2 brothers hai
phir meri sister ke 3 brothers kaise.

sardar apni sister ke saath bike pe ja raha tha.
boy: oh! paaji girlfriend k saath kaha ja rahe ho
sardar: oye ! girlfriend hogi teri meri to sister hai.

1 sardar indian flag lene shop par gaya..flag dekhkar sardar kuch bola
jise sunkar shopkeeper pareshan ho gaya ..guess woh kya bola.....
is mein aur colour dikhao

sardar aaj maine paani ko ullu banaya
2nd sardar: wo kaise?
1st sardar: aaj maine nahane k liye paani garm kiya aur thande se naha liya.

sardar talking on cell.
2nd sardar: kis se baat kar raho ho.
1st: biwi se.....
2nd: itne... pyar se....?
1st: tumhari hai. . .

sardar- yaar maine apni girl friend ko gift dena hai, kya dun ?
2nd- gold ring de de
1st- koi badi cheez bata
2nd - m.r.f ka tyre de de. .

a donkey kicked sardar & ran away sardar ran to catch the donkey.He saw a zebra & started beating it & said 'sala tracksuit pahan ke dhoka de raha hai'.

on jeeto's bday sardar had no money, so he sent a cheque of 100 kisses.
when he returns home jeeto said: thanks i got cheque cashed from bank
manager.

yamraj took a sardar on tour to hell. there he saw gandhi dancing with bipasha.
he asked:gandhi de saza ini mazedar kyon?
yamraj: saza ta bipasha nu diti hai..

sardar breaks an egg 2 make an omlet.He finds the egg empty . . . gets frustrated &
say's "iski maaki,aaj kal murgian bhi abortion karati hai!

how can u identify a sardar in a classroom?
who is erasing notes when teacher is erasing blackboard

teacher: is line ki english banao, usne apna kaam kiya or karta hi gya.
santa: he done his work and done dana dan done dana dan....

lect: write a note on gandhi jayanti..??
so..santa writes "gandhi was a great man but maa kasam i dont know who is jayanti..

santa: agar tumhe kuch ho gaya to mein pagal ho jaaunga.
wife: doosri shaadi to nahin karogey?
santa: pagal ka kya hai, kuch bhi kar sakta hai

banta: you cheated me.
shopkeeper: no, i sold a good radio to you.
banta: radio label shows made in japan but radio says this is all india
radio!

what's ford?
santa: gaadi.
what's oxford?
santa: so simple, bail gaadi.

why did santa throw the butter out of the window?
He wanted to see butterfly!

nurse: congrats santa ji, aap papa ban gaye.
santa: meri wife ko nahi bolna mein use surprise dunga!

petrol ke rate badhne par santa bola: "menu koi farak nahin penda.
pehle bhi 100 ka bharwata tha ab bhi 100 ka bharwata hoon."

Don't cry over anyone who won't cry over you.

Good friends are hard to find, harder to leave, and impossible to forget.

The hardest thing to do is watch the one you love, love somebody else.

Don't let the past hold you back, you're missing the good stuff.

Life's short. If you don't look around once in a while you might miss it.

A BEST FRIEND is like a four leaf clover, HARD TO FIND and LUCKY TO HAVE.

Some people make the world SPECIAL just by being in it.

When it hurts to look back, and you're scared to look ahead, you can look beside you and your BEST FRIEND will be there.

TRUE FRIENDSHIP "NEVER" ENDS...Friends are FOREVER.

Good friends are like shooting stars....You don't always see them, but you know they are always there.

Don't frown... You never know who is falling in love with your smile.

What do you do when the only person who can make you stop crying is the person who made you cry?

Nobody is perfect until you fall in love with them.

Everything is okay in the end... If it's not okay, then it's not the end.

Most people walk in and out of your life, but only friends leave footprints in your heart.

Once upon a time,
there was a software engineer who used to develop programs on his Pentium machine, sitting under a tree on the banks of a river. He used to earn his bread by selling those programs in the Sunday market.

One day, while he was working, his machine tumbled off the table and fell in the river. Encouraged by the Panchatantra story of his childhood (the woodcutter and the axe ).

He started praying to the River Goddess. The River Goddess wanted to test him and so appeared only after one month of rigorous prayers. The engineer told her that he had lost his computer in the river.

As usual, the Goddess wanted to test his honesty. She showed him a match box and asked,
"Is this your computer ?"
Disappointed by the Goddess' lack of computer awareness, the engineer replied, " No."

She next showed him a pocket-sized calculator and asked if that was his.
Annoyed, the engineer said "
No, not at all !!"
Finally, she came up with his own Pentium machine and asked if it was his.
The engineer, left with no option, sighed and said "Yes."

The River Goddess was happy with his honesty. She was about to give him all three items, but before she could make the offer, the engineer asked her, "Don't you know that you're supposed to show me some better computers before bringing up my own ?"

The River Goddess, angered at this, replied, "I know that, you stupid donkey! The first two things I showed you were the Trillennium and the Billennium, the latest computers from IBM !". So saying, she disappeared with the Pentium!!

Moral: If you're not up-to-date with technology trends, it's better to keep your mouth shut and let people think you're a genius than to open your mouth and remove all doubt.

Ours was an arranged marriage. It was done the traditional way. Our parents took care of everything. My only condition was that she should be ready to work. Our horoscopes and photos were exchanged. Everything Matched. I spoke to her over the phone. We talked about things two strangers would talk. She was a lecturer in Bangalore who felt Chemistry was more important than Hindi movies. There was no engagement. The date for marriage was fixed in two weeks as I could not get a vacation after that. Even the vacation time I got was just 10 days.

Everything was fixed. It was supposed to be very hectic for me. We got married and 2 days later we had to leave the country. She cried like there was no tomorrow when we left. She would not talk to me on the plane. I thought that was usual for an Indian girl. I th! ought she would get over it. Once home she would not talk to me. She sat in a corner staring at the
TV. For the first couple of days I had to catch up on some work and did not take her mood seriously.

A week later I sat beside her and asked her, "What is wrong?"

"Why did you bring me here?"

"What do you mean? What happened?"

"I want to go home"

"This is your home"

"No. I want to go home. Please buy me a ticket"

"Look, everybody feels homesick. I did when I! came here the first time. It is normal. You will get over it. Sorry I have been busy with work. We can go out this weekend. You will meet my friends and other people who will be very friendly. Come on be a good girl"

"I hate this place. I miss my family, my friends, my college. All the people I know are not here. I want to go home"

"Think for a minute. Try to reason it out yourself. What is your plan by the way? So you want to go back and never come back?"

"Yes"

"Are you crazy?"

"If you think this is crazy then I am."

"It is ok if you do not answer this question. Is there someone else?"

"No. I want to go home. I will call 911 if you do not send me"

"First cool down. Think about it. Think about our parents. It is less than a month that we got married and now you want to return home. You very well knew that you had to come here. What were you thinking? Even if you are returning home what happens to our marriage?"

"I am not blaming you. I take the blame. It is my mistake. I can't stay so far away from my family. If you are so interested come to India"

"I am family too! What you are asking is ridiculous."

The next day she would not change her mind. I called my folks. They said that it was my decision and! they would stand by me. I booked her ticket and put it in her hand the next evening. She was to leave in 2 days.Nothing would convince her to change her mind. She was crying like a kid. Then she left.

She had done nothing for me to miss but something inside me was telling me that I was at fault. I tried to shake it off but as time grew I started feeling more guilty. I called her. She made it clear that she did not find me despicable but she would not leave her city. Her parents apologized profusely but they were helpless too.

I have had crushes. None of them were serious. There was this girl in my high school tuition whose phone no I managed to find out. Then the prettiest girl in college whom everybody loved, who talked to me once. Then the girl from my city who was at my university in USA who made me feel at home when I visited her place. I had ignored them once! I crossed their paths. But Anjali was my wife. I could not ignore her.

I decided to quit my job. I went home. No one back home knew I was returning. I wanted to surprise her. I dropped off my bags at my place and went to the college she was teaching. The gate keeper would not let me in.So I had to wait outside for the classes to get over.

She walked out alone, struggling to carry her bag, tired, with slow steps. She was walking towards the bus stop. I silently followed her and went behind her and whispered, "Do you mind if I carry your bag?"

She was startled and turned to face me. Her eyes lit up. I was not sure if I could hug her. I was smiling and she had a 100 questions written all over her face. "I want to spend a week with you in this city. Show me the things that you could not miss"

That one week went in a jiffy. She was treated a kid at home with all the comforts. That explained her behavior. Coffee was brought to her in the morning. Even her dress was laid out for her. She would have breakfast and leave. The bus journey was an hour. She would sit near the window with a book. Then once in the college she would teach her classes and come out
tired in the evening. She would stand in the crowded bus carrying her bag which would look heavy. Then she would alight, go home, have a snack and would head out to a friend's place.

Some times she'd stay home watching TV or listening to music. When her dad returned she would join him and they'd have dinner. Then her mom would tuck her in bed. Weekends were not much different. She would sleep late, wake up for breakfast and lie down talking on the phone. Then she would visit the temple in the evening and would have her singing lessons. Then she would eat out and woul! d head home late.That was her life. It was something every human being wanted - simple, content and happy. Of course to her I was a villain. I told her that I understood her. I wanted to know if it was ok if she stayed in the same city but away from her parents. Her only condition was that I should not stay at my parent's place to which I agreed.

So we moved into a small apartment. She knew nothing. She had to be taught everything. She learnt. It was hard to make her understand that she had duties and she had a husband. Coffee had to be brought to her in the morning. She made the rules and broke them. She did not care for me. Sometimes she would not return home but go to her parents' place without informing me. I would have had to go bring her back.

Slowly she started realizing about married life. She would wake up before me, try to cook, agree for a movie, visi! t my friend's place, invite me to her college, let me dress her up, dance in front of me, teach me Chemistry, talk about her crushes, play cricket with me, make me cry for a change. She was growing mature day by day. One day she apologized for the whole thing.I brushed it aside. Finally I had her the way I wanted.

Today I am happy and content with my life. She is still there crying to get her things done. I keep reminding her how she had threatened to call the police. She laughs it away. Some times I wonder how life would have been if I had not returned. Then again some things are left as they are.

That's how life is ...

There are two ways of meeting difficulties:
You alter the difficulties, or you alter yourself to meet them

Boss said to secretary: For a week we will go abroad,so make arrangement.

Secretary makes call to Husband: For a week my boss and I will be going abroad, you look after yourself.

Husband make call to secret lover: My wife is going abroad for a week, so lets spend the week together.

Secret lover make call to small boy whom she is giving private tution: I have work for a week, so you need not come for class.

Small boy make call to his grandfather: Grandpa, for a week I don't have class 'coz my teacher is busy. Lets spend the week together.

Grandpa(the 1st boss) make call to his secretary: This week I am spending my time with my grandson. We cannot attend that meeting.

Secretary make call to her husband: This week my boss has some work, we cancelled our trip.

Husband make call to secret lover: We cannot spend this week together, my wife has cancelled her trip.

Secret lover make call to small boy whom she is giving private tution: This week we will have class as usual.

Small boy make call to his grandfather: Grandpa, my teacher said this week I have to attend class. Sorry I can't give you company.

Grandpa make call to his secretary: Don't worry this week we will attend that meeting, so make arrangement .

HOW IS IT ????
This is called DEAD LOCK.

A team of Managers was given an assignment to measure the height of a flagpole.
So the Managers go out to the flagpole with ladders and tape.
They're falling off the ladders, dropping the tape measures - the whole thing is just a mess.


An Engineer comes along and sees what they're trying to do,
walks over,
pulls the flagpole out of the ground,
lays it flat,
measures it from end to end,
gives the measurement to one of the managers and walks away.

After the Engineer has gone, one manager turns to another and laughs."
See this idiot. We're looking for height and he gives the length!"

Moral: "No matter what good you do, Managers can always find fault in you".

One day a man was having a conversation with God when his whole life flashed
before his eyes as a series of footsteps on the sands of time. He saw that
there were two pairs of footprints, but during the most difficult periods of
his life there were only one set of footprints.

He asked God "You said you will be with me throughout this journey, but why have you deserted me during the most critical times of my life??" to which God answered "Son, I did not desert you, I was always with you...you see only one set of footprints
because during those difficult times in your life, I was carrying you in my
hands"

New Quote:

Another day I was having a similar conversation with my Project Manager (PM)
when my whole project flashed before my eyes as a series of footsteps on the
sands of time.

I saw that there were two pairs of footprints, but during the most difficult times in the project there were only one set of footprints.

I asked my PM "You said you will be with me throughout the project, but why have you deserted me during the most critical times of the project??" to which the PM answered "Son, I did not desert you, I was always with you...you see only one set of footprints because during those difficult times, I was sitting on your head!!"

A teenage college guy sent a love letter (in Q/A format) to his classmate.

My Dearest Reshma,

Please answer the following questionnaire. For Options
(A) 10 marks,
(b) 5marks and
(c) 3 marks.

1)Whenever you enter the class room, your sight always falls on me because:
(a) of love
(b) you couldn't control seeing me
(c) really ... am I doing it?

2)Whenever professor cracks joke, you laugh and turn and look at me because:
(a) you always like to see me smiling
(b) you are testing whether I like jokes
(c) you are attracted by my smile

3)When you were singing in the class, I entered and immediately you stopped singing because:
(a) you are so coy to sing before me
(b) my presence influenced you
(c) you feared that whether I'll like your song

4)When you were showing your childhood photo, when I asked for it, you hide it because:
(a) you felt ashamed
(b) you felt uneasy
(c) you don't know

5)During trekking, myself and my friend gave you hand for lifting you and you took only my friend's because:
(a) you enjoyed my disappointment
(b) you won't feel leaving my hand after grabbing
(c) you don't know

6)You were waiting yesterday for bus and didn't get into your bus...
(a) you were waiting for me
(b) you were dreaming about me and didn't notice the bus
(c) that bus was crowded

7)You introduced me to your parents when they came to college because:
(a) I am going to be your groom
(b) you just want to know what your parents think about me
(c) just you felt like introducing me to them

8)I told that I like girls wearing roses. Next day, you came with a rose on your head because:
(a) to fulfill my wish
(b) you like roses
(c) by chance you got a rose

9)On that day, it was my birthday. you too came to temple early at 6:00 A.M because:
(a) you want to pray along with me
(b) you want to meet me before any one could meet on my birthday
(c) you want to wish me at temple because you are spiritual.

If you have scored more than 40, then you are loving me. Don't delay in expressing it.

If you have scored between 30 and 40, love is budding in your heart and it's getting ready to bloom. If you have scored less than 30, you are in confusion whether to love me or not.

Eagerly awaiting your reply..

Love,
Aakash


Reshma's reply letter was also in Q/A format........

Aakash,
Please answer the following Yes/No questionnaire.

1)If somebody sits in the first row, normally people entering the class, sees them.
(a) Yes (b) No

2)If a girl laughs and looks anyone, is it love?
(a) Yes (b) No

3)While singing, if somebody forgets lines of the songs, will he/she stop singing or not?
(a) Yes (b) No

4)I was showing to my friends (who are all girls) my childhood photo.
You poked your nose inside..... right ?
(a) Yes (b) No

5)I avoided to hold your hand during trekking. Couldn't you understand yet?
(a) Yes (b) No

6)Should I not wait for my best friend (Anjali) at the bus stand?
(a)Yes (b) No

7)Shouldn't I introduce you to my parents as a friend?
(a) Yes (b) No

8)You have said you also like Lotus, cauliflower, banana's flower. Is it true ?
(a) Yes (b) No

9)Oh was that your birthday. That's why I could see you in temple. I come daily to Temple. Do you know ?
(a) Yes (b) No

If you have answered "Yes" to any of the question, then I am not loving you. If you have answered "No", then you don't know the meaning of Love.

Hope everything is clear to you.

Once upon a time leadership mattered,
Now dealership rules the world.

Once upon a time quality was craftsman's pride,
Now it is a departmental mess.

Once upon a time mouse was an untouchable mammal,
Now it is hand held pest.

Once upon a time wisdom was cultivated by wise people,
Now it is flashed on T-shirts.

Once upon a time teacher tought and students learnt,
Now teacher trade and students consume.

Once upon a time population was a problem,
Now it is a flourishing mass market.

Once upon a time competition brought out the best,
Now it brings out the worst in people.

Once upon a time there was a golden rule,
Now if you have gold, you rule.

Once upon a time truth telling was good for your soul,
Now it is bad for promotion.

Once upon a time success meant living by ideals,
Now it is about using above all principles.

If you TREAT her nicely, she says u are IN LOVE with her;
If you Don't, she says u are PROUD.

If you DRESS Nicely, she says u are trying to LURE her;
If you Don't,she says u are from KAMPUNG.

If you ARGUE with her, she says u are STUBBORN;
If you keep QUIET, she says you have no BRAINS.

If you are SMARTER than her, she'll lose FACE;
If she's Smarter than you, she is GREAT.

If you don't LOVE her, she tries to POSSESS you;
If you Love her, she will try to LEAVE you.(very true huh?)

If you don't make lOVE with her., she says you don't Love her;
If you do she says u are CHEAP ....

If you tell her your PROBLEM, she says you are TROUBLESOME ;
If you don't, she says that you don't TRUST her.

If you SCOLD her, you are like a GRANNY to her;
If she SCOLDS you , it is because she CARES for you.

If you BREAK your PROMISE, you Cannot be TRUSTED ;
If she BREAKS her, she is FORCED to do so....

If you SMOKE, you are BAD guy;
If she SMOKES, she is GENTLE LADY.

If you do WELL in your exams, she says it's LUCK ;
If she does WELL, it's BRAINS.

If you HURT her, you are CRUEL ;
If she HURTS u, u ar e too ! SENSITIVE !! & sooo hard to please!!!!!

If you say this to gals, they will swear that it's not true........ ..
but if you don't, they say u are selfish.....

There are many things that you can do to strengthen your relationships. Often the most effective thing you can do involves saying just three words.

When spoken sincerely, these statements often have the power to develop new friendships, deepen old ones and even bring healing to relationships that
have soured.

The following three-word phrases can be tools to help develop every relationship.

Let me help:
Good friends see a need and then try to fill it. When they see a hurt they do what they can to heal it. Without being asked, they jump in and help out.

I understand you:
People become closer and enjoy each other more when the other person accepts and understands them. Letting your spouse know - in so many little ways - that you understand them, is one of the most powerful tools for healing your relationship. And this can apply to any relationship.

I respect you:
Respect is another way of showing love. Respect demonstrates that another person is a true equal. If you talk to your children as if they were adults you will strengthen the bonds and become closer friends. This applies to all interpersonal relationships.

I miss you:
Perhaps more marriages could be saved and strengthened if couples simply and sincerely said to each other "I miss you." This powerful affirmation tells partners they are wanted, needed, desired and loved. Consider how important you would feel, if you received an unexpected phone call from your spouse in the middle of your workday, just to say "I miss you."

Maybe you're right:
This phrase is very effective in diffusing an argument. The implication when
you say "maybe you're right" is the humility of admitting, "maybe I'm
wrong". Let's face it. When you have an argument with someone, all you
normally do is solidify the other person's point of view. They, or you, will
not likely change their position and you run the risk of seriously damaging
the relationship between you. Saying "maybe you're right" can open the door
to explore the subject more. You may then have the opportunity to express
your view in a way that is understandable to the other person.

Please forgive me:
Many broken relationships could be restored and healed if people would admit their mistakes and ask for forgiveness. All of us are vulnerable to faults,foibles and failures. A man should never be ashamed to own up that he has been in the wrong, which is saying, in other words, that he is wiser today than he was yesterday.

I thank you:
Gratitude is an exquisite form of courtesy. People who enjoy the companionship of good, close friends are those who don't take daily courtesies for granted. They are quick to thank their friends for their many expressions of kindness. On the other hand, people whose circle of friends is severely constricted often do not have the attitude of gratitude.

Count on me:
A friend is one who walks in when others walk out. Loyalty is an essential ingredient for true friendship. It is the emotional glue that bonds people. Those that are rich in their relationships tend to be steady and true friends. When troubles come, a good friend is there indicating "you can count on me."

I'll be there:
If you have ever had to call a friend in the middle of the night, to take a sick child to hospital, or when your car has broken down some miles from home, you will know how good it feels to hear the phrase "I'll be there." Being there for another person is the greatest gift we can give. When we are truly present for other people, important things happen to them and us. We are renewed in love and friendship. We are restored emotionally and spiritually. Being there is at the very core of civility.

Go for it:
We are all unique individuals. Don't try to get your friends to conform to your ideals. Support them in pursuing their interests, no matter how far out they seem to you. God has given everyone dreams, dreams that are unique to that person only. Support and encourage your friends to follow their dreams. Tell them to "go for it."

I love you:
Perhaps the most important three words that you can say. Telling someone that you truly love them satisfies a person's deepest emotional needs. The need to belong, to feel appreciated and to be wanted. Your spouse, your children, your friends and you, all need to hear those three little words: "I love you." Love is a choice. You can love even when the feeling is gone.

1) Don’t Just Sit There. Move!
According to many psychologists, motion creates emotion. You might notice that when you are idle, it’s easier to become depressed. Your heart rate slows down, less oxygen travels to your brain, and you are slumped somewhere in a chair blocking air from reaching your lungs.
I challenge you right now, regardless of how you are feeling, to get up and walk around at a fast tempo. Maybe you might want to go to an empty room and jump up and down a little bit. It may sound silly but the results speak for themselves. Try it now for a few minutes. By now you should begin to feel more energetic and in a better mood. It works like magic.

2) Smell The Roses.
Like my friend Jan Toles says, “Stop and smell the roses.” (Jan, I listened to your advice and went to the flower section in Kroger and literally smelled every rose. That’s what you get for not being clear to foreigners!) How do you smell the roses? How about investing some money to go on that one trip you’ve been dreaming about? Would Paris do? There you will find lots of exotic places to jolt your imagination and spur your creativity. You can also visit the Caribbean and learn how to scuba dive. Can you imagine swimming deep under the beautiful blue water alongside some of the most beautiful creatures you have ever seen? When my friend Lumenise Gilot described that experience to me, I thought to myself, “What an exceptional way to smell the roses!”

3) Get Some Company.
If you’re like me, you have many acquaintances, but you only have a few true friends. This isn’t because I’m introverted. It is because I’m very selective about who I let enter my territory. I have worked too hard to build my house—my dream—and I won’t let anyone destroy it for me in the blink of an eye. When you’re feeling down, call your true friends and share what it is that you’re going through. Ask for their advice or input. While their advice or suggestions may be helpful, often you’ll find that simply verbalizing your problems will help you feel better.

4) Help Others Cope With Their Problems.
It is very therapeutic when you engross yourself in helping others. You will be surprised how many people’s problems are worse than those you may be facing. You can offer others assistance in countless ways. Don’t curl up in your bed and let depression and stress take hold of you. Get out and help somebody. There are many charitable organizations that can use your help right now. My dear cousin Barbara reads to the blind. What about that? Call the National Federation of the Blind so that they can tell you how to get involved.

5) Laugh A Little.
By now you’ve heard that laughter is a good internal medicine. It relieves tension and loosens the muscles. It causes blood to flow to the heart and brain. More importantly, laughter releases a chemical that rids the body of pains. Yet, this is just the tip of the iceberg. Every day, researchers discover new benefits of laughter. Let me ask you this question: “Can you use a good dose of belly-shaking laughter every now and then?” Of course you can.

6) Visit Third World Countries
Nothing is more humbling than to visit a poor country and see first hand what other human beings go through just to survive. Most people who have taken such trips come back with a deep and profound sense of gratitude and appreciation. They realize how much they’ve taken for granted without ever realizing it. I encourage you to travel whenever you can afford to do so. You’re not too busy. Do it for you. Your life will never be the same.

7) Wear Your Knees Out.
If there were one sustainable remedy I could offer you when the going gets tough, it would be prayer. Many people, depending on their faith, might call it meditation. It doesn’t matter to me what you call it, as long as you have a place to run to. Mahatma Gandhi said, “Religions are crossroads converging upon the point.” Well, I don’t

Dont wait for some distant day to come,
it may be too late before you've ever even begun.
Not everyone will agree with all you decide.

Be true to yourself first and foremost.
The only important thing in life is what you do
with the time you spend here on earth.

Don't be afraid to follow your desires,
they are not silly nor selfish.
Take the time and do what makes you feel alive.

Leave you fears and regrets in the past.
for this is where they belong.
don't cloud today with things that can't be undone.

You have no more control over yesterday or tomorrow,
than you do the raging of your passions.
Dont be quiet these dreams nor quench your desires.

For if you do,your journey is ended.
You have only today to begin a new and follow your dreams.
For in the end all we have are our memories.

When the twilight comes to us,let there be,
No excuses, no explainations , no regrets.

To hate all roses
Because you got scratched with one thorn...

To give up on your dreams
Because one didn't come true..

To loose faith in prayers
Because one was not answered..

To give up on your efforts
Because one of them failed...

To condemn all your friends
Because one betrayed you..

Not to believe in love
Because someone was unfaithful or didn't love you back...

To throw away all your chances to be happy
Because you did not succeed on the first attempt....

I hope that as you go on your way you don't give in to madness.

Remembering always....
Another chance may come up
Another friend
A new love
A renewed strength
Be persistent
Look for hapiness in every day

The sure path to failure is to give up! it is often through failure that future success come-keep trying.

I've learned....
that the best classroom in the world is at the feet of an elderly person.

I've learned.....
that when you're in love, it shows.

I've learned....
that just one person saying to me, "You've made my day!" makes my day.

I've learned....
that having a child fall asleep in your arms is one of the most peaceful feelings in the world.

I've learned.....
that being kind is more important than being right.

I've learned....
that you should never say no to a gift from a child.

I've learned....
that I can always pray for someone when I don't have the strength to help him in some other way.

I've learned.....
that no matter how serious your life requires you to be, everyone needs a friend to act goofy with.

I've learned....
that sometimes all a person needs is a hand to hold and a heart to understand.

I've learned....
that simple walks with my father around the block on summer nights when I was a child did wonders for me as an adult.

I've learned.....
that life is like a roll of toilet paper.The closer it gets to the end, the faster it goes.

I've learned....
that we should be glad God doesn't give us everything we ask for.

I've learned....
that money doesn't buy class.

I've learned.....
that it's those small daily happenings that make life so spectacular.

I've learned....
that under everyone's hard shell is someone who wants to be appreciated and loved.

I've learned....
that the Lord didn't do it all in one day.What makes me think I can?

I've learned.....
that to ignore the facts does not change the facts.

I've learned....
that when you plan to get even with someone,you are only letting that person continue to hurt you.

I've learned....
that love, not time, heals all wounds.

I've learned.....
that the easiest way for me to grow as a person is to surround myself with people smarter than I am.

I've learned....
that everyone you meet deserves to be greeted with a smile.

I've learned.....
that no one is perfect until you fall in love with them.

I've learned....
that life is tough, but I'm tougher.

I've learned....
that opportunities are never lost;someone will take the ones you miss.

I've learned.....
that when you harbor bitterness,happiness will dock elsewhere.

I've learned....
that one should keep his words both soft and tender, because tomorrow he may have to eat them.

I've learned.....
that a smile is an inexpensive way to improve your looks.

I've learned....
that I can't choose how I feel, but I can choose what I do about it.

I've learned.....
that everyone wants to live on top of the mountain,but all the happiness and growth occurs while you're climbing it.

I've learned....
that it is best to give advice in only two circumstances; when it is requested and when it is a life-threatening situation.

I've learned.....
that the less time I have to work with, the more things I get done.

Ten angels walk beside me, each and every day.
Ten angels help guide me, to give comfort and protect.
They have been my companions since I was very young.

Now you may ask me, why Ten? Do you think you are special? Why not one, or two, or three?
Why Ten? Surely you don't need so many?

Well, each and every angel has a special job to do. Yes, it seems even angels, specialize.

All of us know FAITH, HOPE, and CHARITY. They are wonderful angels, and all so overworked!
But there are seven more you see, and each and every one gives comfort and protects.

The fourth angel, is the angel I call TOLERANCE.
Whom I fear we do not use enough, for if we did, there would not be any bigotry or hate.

The next angel is the one I call FORGIVENESS, who is under utilized as well. Who among us could not do with more FORGIVENESS in our hearts.

Then we have the angel I call BEAUTY. We all see so much ugliness in life. I don't know a single soul who couldn't do with more BEAUTY in their life.

The next two angels, are the twins I call JOY and HAPPINESS. They are most often seen walking hand and hand. JOY and HAPPINESS. They are most often seen walking hand and hand.

My favorite angel is the one I call FRIEND.
This little angel, is the one who can bring real riches to our lives. I have often heard her saying, "To have a friend, one must first be a friend." And do you know, it works!

And last but in no way least, is the angel I call, LOVE.
Sometimes she seems so shy, and it seems like she is sleeping. But she is always near. If we would only open up our hearts and just see her standing there.
For if we did, then all the other Angels would be easier to see.

It is my belief that we all have Ten Angels walking beside us.
They are sent from God, to see us through,to guide, comfort and protect us.

Try to end a quarrel.
Seek out a forgotten friend.
Dismiss suspicion, and replace it with trust.

Write a love letter.
Share some treasure.
Give a soft answer.
Encourage youth.

Manifest your loyalty in word and deed.
Keep a promise.
Find the time.
Forgo a grudge.
Forgive an enemy.

Listen.
Apologize if you were wrong.
Try to understand.
Flout envy.
Examine your demands of others.

Think first of somebody else.
Appreciate.
Be kind.
Be gentle.
Laugh a little.
Laugh a little more.

Deserve confidence.
Take up arms against malice.
Express your gratitude..
Go to church.

Welcome a stranger.
Gladden the heart of a child or a senior.
Take pleasure in the beauty and wonder of the earth.
Do a random act of kindness.
Speak your love.

If you use these keys to happiness you can unlock the doors of success!

The story given here is quite interesting and really gives us an insight into DECISION MAKING

A group of children were playing near two railway tracks, one still in use while the other disused. Only one child played on the disused track, the rest on the operational track.
The train came, and you were just beside the track interchange. You could make the train change its course to the disused track and saved most of the kids.
However, that would also mean the lone child playing by the disused track would be sacrificed. Or would you rather let the train go its way?
Let's take a pause to think what kind of decision we could make................
Analyse the situation………….
Think and reflect…….
Decided your answer !!!!
Now … go ahead

Most people might choose to divert the course of the train, and sacrifice only one child. To save most of the children at the expense of only one child was rational decision most people would make, morally and emotionally.

But, have you ever thought that the child choosing to play on the disused track had in fact made the right decision to play at a safe place?

Nevertheless, he had to be sacrificed because of his ignorant friends who chose to play where the danger was.

This kind of dilemma happens around us everyday. In the office, community, in politics and especially in a democratic society, the minority is often sacrificed for the interest of the majority, no matter how foolish or ignorant the majority are, and how farsighted and knowledgeable the minority are.

The child who chose not to play with the rest on the operational track was sidelined. And in the case he was sacrificed, no one would shed a tear for him.

To make the proper decision is not try to change the course of the train because the kids playing on the operational track should have known very well that track was still in use, and that they should have run away if they heard the train's sirens.

If the train was diverted, that lone child would definitely die because he never thought the train could come over to that track! Moreover, that track was not in use probably because it was not safe.

If the train was diverted to the track, we could put the lives of all passengers on board at stake! And in your attempt to save a few kids by sacrificing one child, you might end up sacrificing hundreds of people to save these few kids

While we are all aware that life is full of tough decisions that need to be made, we may not realize that hasty decisions may not always be the right one. "Remember that what's right isn't always popular... and what's popular isn't always right."

Everybody makes mistakes; that's why they put erasers on pencils.

1: Secure lifestyle
An engineer boyfriend /gf can provide you with a secure lifestyle. At 27
years old, an engineer probably has a respectable, stable job that
gives him / her high income to own a car, invest, have a comfortable life,
and get married and buy a house too. Law graduates are still working
as a lowly apprentice in law firm, most management graduates have just
failed on their first business plan, the arts graduate is still
looking for a job, and the medical school graduate is still living in
a hospital.

2: Unmatchable industriousness
An engineer boyfriend /gf will dedicate an unimaginable amount of his time
and effort to understand you. Engineers strain really really hard to
understand their work. You can believe that they will try really
really hard to understand women too, just like how they understand
their work, once they believe that you are the one. So even if they
don't understand you initially, they will keep on trying. Even if they
still do not understand, they will figure out the correct method to
keep you happy (e.g. buy diamond ring = 1 week's worth of happiness.)

And once they find out the secret formula, they will just keep on
repeating it so that the desired results appear. Unlike the Lawyer who
will argue with you, the Management graduate who will try to control
your spending, the Arts graduate who will 'change major', and the
medical school graduate who will operate on you. And you know what,
it's really so easy to make engineers believe that you are the 'one'.

Say that you like one of their projects and they will be hooked to you forever.

3: An engineer boyfriend /gf will never betray your trust. Let me first tell you what is wrong with the rest of the others - the
lawyers will lie about everything, management graduates will cheat
your money, the arts graduate will flirt, and you probably just look
like another cadaver to the medical school graduate. Your engineer
boyfriend / gf is either too busy to have an affair, and even if he does,
he is too dumb to lie to you about that.

Hence, an engineer is the most secure boyfriend /gf that you will ever
find - rich enough, will keep on trying to understand and please you,
has no time for affairs, and too dumb to lie to you.

Three things in life that, once gone, never come back -
Time
Words
Opportunity

Three things in life that are most valuable -
Love
Self-confidence
Friends

Three things in life that are never certain -
Dreams
Success
Fortune

Three things that make a man/woman -
Hard work
Sincerity
Commitment

Three things in life that can destroy a man/woman -
Alcohol
Pride
Anger

Three things in life that, once lost, hard to build-up -
Respect
Trust
Friendship

A father passing by his teenage daughter's bedroom was astonished to see the bed was nicely made and everything was neat and tidy. Then he saw an envelope propped up prominently on the centre of the pillow. It was addressed "Dad". With the worst premonition, he opened the envelope and read the letter with trembling hands

Dear Dad,

It is with great regret and sorrow that I'm writing you, but I'm leaving home. I had to elope with my new boyfriend Randy because I wanted to avoid a scene with Mom and you. I've been finding real passion with Randy and he is so nice to me. I know when you meet him you'll like him too - even with all his piercing, tattoos, and motorcycle clothes. But it's not only the passion Dad, I'm pregnant and Randy said that he wants me to have the kid and that we can be very happy together. Even though Randy is much older than me (anyway, 42 isn't so old these days is it?), and has no money, really these things shouldn't stand in the way of our relationship, don't you agree?

Randy has a great CD collection; he already owns a trailer in the woods and has a stack of firewood for the whole winter. It's true he has other girlfriends as well but I know he'll be faithful to me in his own way. He wants to have many more children with me and that's now one of my dreams too.

Randy taught me that marijuana doesn't really hurt anyone and he'll be growing it for us and we'll trade it with our friends for all the cocaine and ecstasy we want. In the meantime, we'll pray that science will find a cure for AIDS so Randy can get better; he sure deserves it!!

Don't worry Dad, I'm 15 years old now and I know how to take care of myself. Someday I'm sure we'll be back to visit so you can get to know your grandchildren.

Your loving daughter,
Rosie

At the bottom of the page were the letters "PTO".
Hands still trembling, her father turned the sheet, and read:

PS: Dad, none of the above is true. I'm over at the neighbor’s house. I just wanted to remind you that there are worse things in life than my report card that's in my desk centre drawer. Please sign it and call when it is safe for me to come home. I love you!

Love, love and lots of love
Daughter

Friendship advice can heal the broken relations.

To suspect a friend is worse than to be deceived by him. Be a committed friend yourself, others will be friend to you. Commitment is an invisible thread between two friends. Be with him even before he asks. Never injure a friend, even in jest. You are never useless while you have a friend. Make new friends, but keep the old; those are silver, these are gold.

Can you define a friend ? A friend can not be defined in few sentences. Yet, It can be termed as a person with whom you dare to be yourself. A real friend never gets in your way unless you happen to be on the way down. Never contract friendship with a man who is not better than thyself.

To stay friends a little straight talk is sometimes the best way. You can hardly make a friend in a year, but you can lose one in an hour. “Be my Friend..” is very easy to say. It takes three minutes to explain, three hours to demonstrate, three days to understand, but the whole life to prove. Rely and respect the intelligence of a friend. The difficulty is not so great to die for a friend, as to find a friend worth dying for. Friendship improves happiness, and abates misery, by doubling our joy and dividing our grief. The language of friendship is not words but meanings. It is an intelligence above language. Two persons can not long be friends if they can not forgive each other’s little failings.

God evidently does not intend us all to be rich or powerful or great but he does intend us all to be friends. The firmest friendship have been formed in mutual adversity. As iron is most strongly united by the fiercest flames. Speak well of your friends behind their backs.

Three days of uninterrupted company in a vehicle will make you better friends than one hour’s conversation with him every day for three years.

Cast: Amitabh Bachchan, Aman Siddiqui, Juhi Chawla, Shah Rukh Khan
Direction: Vivek Sharma
Critic rating:** 1/2
Review Source:http://timesofindia.indiatimes.com/moviereview/3025885.cms

IT'S heartening to see the advent of the Hollywood trend of summer movies in Indian cinema. With Bhootnath, Bollywood too recognises the need to cater to the fast growing tween and teen population with specially crafted family drama meant to spice up the vacation. Here, it's quite a riot of fun that a sixty-plus ghost and a seven-something kid manage to kick up with their escapades in a spooky haveli on the outskirts of Goa.

Needless to say, this was quite a challenge for Amitabh Bachchan to take up since ghosts in Indian cinema have never been characters of substance. But Bachchan's rendition of the shabby, irascible spook who ends up as a cherubic prankster's best buddy is indeed a towering portrayal. Bachchan's banshee act makes you laugh and cry, sometimes at the sheer silliness (yes, he even pokes his tongue at you, dances in hoodies and shredded jeans) and sometimes at the kleenex-clutching dada-ji act. And the fact that the young child actor, Aman Siddiqui, stands up to the ice-cream guzzling ghost, does call for an applause.

So what goes against it? The long-winded climax that turns the film into tedious terrain and the failure of the director to treat his film like a comedy alone. It all begins breezily enough, as Shah Rukh Khan leaves his family (Juhi Chawla and the kid) in the new house and sets off on a cruise. The house has a history behind it and is generally avoided by the residents of the city, since they believe it is haunted. But joyous Juhi rubbishes all such supernatural claims and gets down to the business of settling down with her son who believes in angels not bhoots. Soon he spots the angel too -- an angry Bachchan who wants to throw them out -- and manages to tame him as his pet jaadugar who sets everything right in school and at home. But trouble at school and tiffs with the local bully are not the only problem to contend with. The bhoot has his own tale of woe too... And that's the beginning of big trouble.

The tenor of the film suddenly changes from breezy to burdensome and leaves you wondering why the Baghban twist needs to appear in most of the Bachchan films. Nevertheless, there's lots to recommend. Go for the bhoot and bachcha buddyness, the kurkure charisma of Juhi Chawla (she's in crackling form), the tiffin-chor chutzpah of Satish Shah. And yes, before we forget, there's also the ponytail presence of SRK who has delicious trouble with his wife's sandwiches. Fun for the bachcha log alone.

Cast: Emraan Hashmi, Sonal Chauhan
Direction: Kunal Deshmukh
Critic rating: ** 1/2

TRULY, this one's a case of a great opportunity going kaput. The theme was dynamite -- betting and match fixing in cricket. The choice of the lead character -- a hotshot bookie who has the cricket heroes at his beck and call -- was refreshing. The allusions to the World Cup and the Woolmer case were topical. The film could have truly been a fast-paced thriller set against the heady backdrop of big money and bad cricket. Ironically, the director chose to concentrate more on the bookie's love story than on the spurious operations that go on in the locker rooms and underworld dens.

And the fact that this is a truly colourless love life, going nowhere, saying nothing, puts the brakes on what could have been a rollercoaster ride into the underbelly of India's greatest passion: cricket. Whenever the story begins to veer into dangerous and chatpata territory, our smooth fixer shifts gears and decides to play romeo to a plain and pallid Jane. Grrr! You simply grind your teeth in despair and wait for the film to get back onto the jagged track.

Emraan Hashmi is the delightfully wicked soul who believes morals are moribund; it's money that makes the world go round. Hailing from a middle class home, with a dad who was content bathing with Hamam soap and a mom who made hot rotis for the family dinner, Hashmi was hellbent on creating his own jannat . And moolah -- loads of it -- was the only ticket to this paradise. With his sixth sense as his weapon, he enters the dubious world of betting, earns a reputation and wins the patronage of the don who wants him to fix the World Cup for him. Great going so far, specially during the scenes where Hashmi offers a well-known captain Rolex watches and some ungodly sum to loose a match, or bets on a ball where Sehwag is going to get out. But suddenly, the focus shifts to his girlfriend (Sonal Chauhan) who loves the riches, but has conscience pangs too. She sends him off to jail and begins to pole dance in a nightclub.

Hey, now where did that come from? Can we please get back to the backrooms, the underhand dealings, the smooth operations, the dirty nexus between terrorism and match fixing....Can we please get back to Emraan Hashmi, an actor who seems to have perfected the art of portraying the man-on-the-edge with ambivalent morals. He delivers a fine punch to the bookie act, much unlike the debutant heroine who is colourless and flat. The second half of the film unfortunately focuses too much on the jaded romance and cuts a great story short. Sad.

A newly joined trainee engineer asks his boss "what is the meaning of appraisal?"

Boss: "Do you know the meaning of resignation? "
Trainee: "Yes I do"
Boss: "So let me make you understand what a appraisal is by comparing it with resignation"

Comparison study : Appraisal and Resignation

In appraisal meeting they will speak only about your weakness, errors and failures.
In resignation meeting they will speak only about your strengths, past achievements and success.

In appraisal you may need to cry and beg for even 10% hike.
In resignation you can easily demand (or get even without asking) more than 50-60% hike.

During appraisal, they will deny promotion saying you didn't meet the expectation, you don't have leadership qualities, and you had several drawbacks in our objective/goal.
During resignation, they will say you are the core member of team; you are the vision of the company how can you go, you have to take the project in shoulder and lead your juniors to success.

There is 90% chance for not getting any significant incentives after appraisal.
There is 90% chance of getting immediate hike after you put the resignation.

Trainee: "Yes boss enough, now I understood my future. For an appraisal I will have to resign ... !!!"

Ramu : I've just become a member of Rotract Club.
Somu : Public member or private?

Ramu : Hey.. my submarine is not sinking into the water!! what could be wrong?
Somu : May be u have used float instead of double in the software.

PS : Hey Bull, Can you do me a favor? Can you pass on these 500 rupees to Suthi..?
Bull : Sure.. why not? But tell me one thing. Tell me whether its pass by value or pass by reference.
PS : ???!!!

Ramu : I am very very sure that the guy who just talked to me is a software engineer...
Somu : how do u say that?
Ramu : he asked my physical address instead of my home address!

Ramu : shhhh...I think the SW Engg who is sitting in the next cabin must be a farmer before ...
Somu : How do u know...?
Ramu : he asked me today that is there a way to cultivate the bit fields..!!

Ramu : why people are beating that SW engg black and blue?
Somu : it seems, he asked one of them that whether "vante mataram" is new kind of RAM in the market!

Ramu : Hey.... whats time now?
Somu : System time or local time...??

Ramu : Hey.. I have a problem. My system is not booting up!
Somu : May be, its internal buses are on strike.. check out!

Geetha : I think that SW Engg is very naive..
Seetha : how do u say that?
Geetha : He believes "Rascal" is a new version of Pascal!

Vani : We have shifted our home to Malleswaram now..
Soni : right shift or left shift??

Kannamma : do u have Design Specs for brinjal sambar?
Ponnamma : u mean recipe..?

Ramu : Somu, I am going to file a case against my landlord yaar. He's harassing me too much.
Somu : What case? Upper Case or Lower Case or.......

For all you people who say "I love you" when you have no clue what love is exactly!!! something to ponder upon.....
Are your palms sweaty, is your heart racing and is your voice caught within your chest??
It isn't love, it's like.

You can't keep your eyes or hands off of them, am I right??
It isn't love, it's lust.

Are you proud, and eager to show them off??
It isn't love, it's luck.

Do you want them because you know they're there??
It isn't love, it's loneliness.

Are you there because it's what everyone wants??
It isn't love, it's loyalty.

Are you there because they kissed you, or held your hand??
It isn't love, it's low confidence.

Do you stay for their confessions of love, because you don't want to hurt them??
It isn't love, it's pity.

Do you belong to them because their sight makes your heart skip a beat??
It isn't love, its infatuation.

Do you pardon their faults because you care about them??
It isn't love, it's friendship.

Do you tell them every day they are the only one you think of??
It isn't love, it's a lie.

Are you willing to give all of your favorite things for their sake??
It isn't love, it's charity.

Does your heart ache and break when they're sad??
Then it's love.

Do you cry for their pain, even when they're strong??
Then it's love.

Do their eyes see your true heart, and touch your soul so deeply it hurts??
Then it's love.

Do you stay because a blinding, incomprehensible mix of pain and relation pulls you close and holds you there??
Then it's love.

Do you accept their faults because they're a part of who they are??
Then it's love.

Would you give them your heart, your life, your death??
Then it's love.

Now, if love is painful, and tortures us so, why do we love? Why is it all we search for in life? This pain, this agony? Why is it all we long for?

This torture, this powerful death of self? Why?

The answer is so simple cause it's...LOVE. It is such an addictive thing that even people who are not having it wish to experience it and share it with others as well.

In ancient Greece (469 - 399 BC), Socrates was widely lauded for his wisdom.

One day the great philosopher came upon an acquaintance that ran up to him excitedly and said, "Socrates, do you know what I just heard about one of your students called Plato?"

"Wait a moment," Socrates replied. "Before you tell me I'd like you to
pass a little test. It's called the Triple Filter Test".

"Triple filter?"

"That's right," Socrates continued. "Before you talk to me about my student
let's take a moment to filter what you're going to say.

The first Filter is Truth. Have you made absolutely sure that what you are about to tell me is true?"

"No," the man said, "actually I just heard about it and..."

"All right," said Socrates. "So you don't really know if it's true or not.

Now let's try the second filter, the Filter of Goodness. Is what you are
about to tell me about my student something good?"
"No, on the contrary..."
"So," Socrates continued, "you want to tell me
something bad about him,
even though you're not certain it's true?"
The man shrugged, a little embarrassed.
Socrates continued. "You may still pass the test
though, because there is a
third filter - the Filter of usefulness. Is what you
want to tell me about my student going to be useful to me?"

"No, not really..."
"Well," concluded Socrates, "if what you want to
tell me is neither True nor Good, nor even Useful, why tell it to me
at all?" The man was defeated and ashamed.

This is the reason Socrates was a great philosopher
and held in such high esteem.

Don't attempt to run from the past, it is always behind you.
Don't be afraid of opposition; Remember a kite rises against, not with the wind.
Don't be afraid of tomorrow, for God has already been there.
Don't be afraid to learn. Knowledge is weightless, a treasure you can always carry easily.
Don't be angry at a friend who told your secret, for neither could you keep it to yourself
Don't be concerned others not appreciating you. Be concerned about your not appreciating others (Confucius).
Don't be irreplaceable -- if you can't be replaced, you won't be promoted.
Don't be so Heavenly minded that you do no earthly good.
Don't control, be in control.
Don't count the days, make the days count. (Mohammed Ali)
Don't cry because it's over, smile because it happened.
Don't ever slam a door- you may want to go back.
Don't fear failure so much that you refuse to try new things.
The saddest summary of a life contains three descriptions: could have,might have, and should have.
Don't get good at doing something if you don't like doing it.
Don't get married only because of the money. You can borrow it cheaper.
Don't judge each day by the harvest you reap, but by the seeds you plant.
Don't just get something out of church, put something into it.
Don't kill the dream - execute it!
Don't learn the tricks of the trade, learn the trade.
Don't let anybody walk through your mind with dirty feet. (Gandhi)
Don't let people drive you crazy when it is within walking distance.
Don't let time take control of your destiny.Let your destiny take control of your time.
Don't let what you cannot do interfere with what you can do.
Don't let your life slip through your fingers by living in the past or for the future.
Don't limit your challenges - challenge your limits.
Don't listen to what I say; listen to what I mean.
Don't love the things! you own, lest they own you.
Don't measure your life by how many breaths you take, measure it by how many times you get your breath taken away.
Don't pray for easy lives; pray to be stronger people.

1) THE GIFT OF LISTENING...
But you must REALLY listen. No interrupting, no daydreaming, no planning your response. Just listening.

2) THE GIFT OF AFFECTION...
Be generous with appropriate hugs, kisses, pats on the back and handholds. Let these small actions demonstrate the love you have for family and friends.

3) THE GIFT OF LAUGHTER...
Clip cartoons. Share articles and funny stories. Your gift will say, "I love to laugh with you."

4) THE GIFT OF A WRITTEN NOTE...
It can be a simple "Thanks for the help" note or a full sonnet. A brief, handwritten note may be remembered for a lifetime, and may even change a life.

5) THE GIFT OF A COMPLIMENT...
A simple and sincere, "You look great in red," "You did a super job" or "That was a wonderful meal" can make someone's day.

6) THE GIFT OF A FAVOR...
Every day, go out of your way to do something kind.

7) THE GIFT OF SOLITUDE...
There are times when we want nothing better than to be left alone. Be sensitive to those times and give the gift of solitude to others.

8) THE GIFT OF A CHEERFUL DISPOSITION...
The easiest way to feel good is to extend a kind word to someone, really it's not that hard to say, "Hello" or "Thank you."

First love… first broken heart… they say you’ll never really understand and know love fully unless you’ve had your heart broken.Friends say it’s going to be okay, that it will only hurt in the beginning… that it will only get better from now on, but your heart is telling you otherwise. It makes you wish you were back as a child so you wouldn’t have to deal with the painful loss of love. But then the reality is, you’re no longer a child. You realize you’ve grown into a woman. You fell in love, you were happier than you’ve ever been in your life, and then one day, you’ll just realize it’s all over. The love that person feels for you is no longer there, and you’re left feeling rejected and empty.

Some people have honestly never experienced a broken heart, they’ve never experienced the pain, regret, fear, and longing that comes along with it. They say the first broken heart is more painful and takes a longer time to heal. Well, it may be due to the fact that it’s your first ever taste of a love lost. They say that the second time, third time, or the umpteenth time wouldn’t be so hard because you’ve already experienced it. For me, it depends on the length and depth of the relationship. The more in love you are with the person, the more painful it is to lose that person.

In my opinion, no matter how many times you’ve had you’re heart broken, regardless of the level and intensity of the pain, it is still in fact PAINFUL. Losing someone you love is always painful, unless you have a heart of stone.
When I first had my heart broken, I felt like my whole world was crashing in on me. I didn’t know what to do, or how to deal with the new, overwhelming emotion. It was painful. But I had to accept the fact that sometimes, love changes. And I’ve had to slowly pick up the pieces and start over again. And no matter how many words of encouragement people gave me, and even though I knew they’re right, it wasn’t easy to shake off the fears and the loneliness of losing someone that has been part of my life for so long.

But hey, life goes on… with or without that person. It’s painful and unfair, but I know I have to push past that and learn to move on with my life. It’s not going to be easy, but I have to do it. And I know I can do it too, because I’ve always believed that everything happens for a reason, and when one door of happiness closes, another opens. I’ll just have to learn to trust God, and have faith that He has something better for me. Experiences like this can only make me stronger, and more mature.

Do you remember what it was like with your first broken heart?

It was early morning, yet already it had been a stupendously bad day. One thing after another. The downward spiral continued when a large pitcher of orange juice slid from my hands and smashed to the floor. Glass and sticky juice spewed to the farthest corners of the kitchen, slithering down cabinets and appliances, puddling at my feet.

Stunned, I looked at the mess. Then I dropped dejectedly down to the floor, my eyes filling with overdue tears. The tears came from begrudging and angry acceptance that "today is just not my day."

Bad day or not, errands had to be done. Filled with angst and negative mental baggage, I got in my car to drive into town. In the few minutes it took to travel to the bank I made a decision. I would be careful not to pass my bad day off to anyone else. I would be cordial and polite. And I would NOT retaliate when that harried driver pulled quickly and rudely in front of me causing me to slam on my breaks, dumping the contents of my drink onto the front car seat!

Standing in line at the bank, I was silently talking to myself. Actually, I was scolding myself. All of the events that had accumulated and contributed to my bad day were, in reality, so very minor and trivial. I was over-reacting. I was indulging in self-pity. I tried to imagine the innumerable, individual lives that had been effected by 9/11, by the war in Iraq, by the tsunami.

For the second time that day my eyes filled with tears as I realized how disconnected I felt from all those individuals who are trying to cope with truly traumatic events in their lives. They all seemed so distant and unknowable, and this justified and intensified my belief that I was being self-centered and selfish. I was sure that all my efforts to be a caring and loving person were for naught.

A voice broke through my mental distractions. Somehow I had mechanically finished my bank transaction and the teller was trying to get my attention. "Young lady," she was saying, "Young lady!"

I looked up and into the eyes of the bank teller, a silver-haired grandmother with a gentle beauty. Her keen eyes reflected concern as she leaned forward and softly said, "I don't know what is happening inside of you, but please, believe me when I tell you that - everything will be okay."

And then she did something quite marvelous. My hands were resting on the counter. She took her hands and placed them gently on top of mine. The touch was quick but electric. And in that moment my world shifted.

In the moment of her touch my self-doubt vanished. I found understanding and acceptance. I knew that love was being channeled through the heart of this beautiful woman directly into my heart. I was infused with a profound awareness - that I am loved. I was speechless. I smiled. It was my first smile of the day. But it would not be my last, as from that moment on my entire day was transformed.

Perhaps without even knowing it, the kind-hearted bank teller allowed herself to be a conduit of divine love. She was instrumental in transforming a day that seemed destined to be a day of tears into a day of smiles. The seemingly small gesture of a this gentle woman not only changed the course of my day, it became a powerful reminder in my life. The profound effect of that one simple, loving touch remains in my heart to this day.

More people than not scoff at the idea of world peace. Laugh if you wish. As for myself, I believe it is possible to transform our world ... one act of loving kindness at a time.

Remember: A simple smile. A warm handshake. A kind word. A gentle hug. Through these, we open the transformative power of love.

The great sin -- Gossip.
The great crippler -- Fear.
The greatest mistake -- Giving up.
The most satisfying experience -- Doing your duty first.
The best action -- Keep the mind clear and judgment good.
The greatest blessing -- Good health.
The biggest fool - The man who lies to himself.
The great gamble -- Substituting hope for facts.
The most certain thing in life -- Change.
The greatest joy -- Being needed.
The cleverest man -- The one who does what he thinks is right.
The most potent force -- Positive thinking.
The greatest opportunity -- The next one.
The greatest thought -- God.
The greatest victory -- Victory over self.
The best play -- Successful work.
The greatest handicap -- Egotism.
The most expensive indulgence -- Hate.
The most dangerous man -- The liar.
The most ridiculous trait -- False pride.
The greatest loss -- Loss of self confidence.
The greatest need -- Common sense.

The most selfish ONE letter word....I
**AVOID IT**

The most satisfying TWO letter word....WE
**USE IT**

The most poisonous THREE letter word....EGO
**KILL IT**

The most used FOUR letter word....LOVE
**VALUE IT**

The most pleasing FIVE letter word....SMILE
**KEEP IT**

The fastest spreading SIX letter word....RUMOUR
**IGNORE IT**

The hardest SEVEN letter word....SUCCESS
**ACHIEVE IT**

The most enviable EIGHT letter word....JEALOUSY
**DISTANCE IT**

The most powerful NINE letter word....KNOWLEDGE
**ACQUIRE IT**

The most essential TEN letter word....CONFIDENCE
**TRUST IT**

HER DIARY

Day night, I thought he was acting weird. We had made plans to meet at a cafe to have some coffee. I was shopping with my friends all day long, so I
thought he was upset at the fact that I was a bit late, but he made no comment.Conversation wasn't flowing so I suggested that we go somewhere quiet so we could talk, he agreed but he kept quiet and absent.I Asked him what was wrong - he
said, "Nothing."I asked him if it was my fault that he was upset. He said it had
nothing to do with me and not to worry.

On the way home I told him that I loved him, he simply smiled and kept driving. I can't explain his behavior; I don't know why he didn't say, "I love u, too."When we got home I felt as if I had lost him, as if he wanted nothing to do with me anymore.
He just sat there and watched TV. He seemed distant and absent.Finally I decided to go to bed. About 10 minutes later he came to bed. I decided that I could not take it anymore, so I decided to confront him with the situation but he had fallen asleep.I
started crying and cried until I too fell asleep. I don't know what to do. I'm almost sure that his thoughts are with someone else. My life is a disaster.


HIS DIARY

Today India lost the cricket match against Pakistan.
GODDAMN IT.

Now that's called

Simplicity of Men
Vs
Complexity of Women !!!

I WAS IN a relationship with a person, but I didn’t meet him for almost six months. It might sound like a film story, but it’s true. Well, he is Rishi. We just used to talk on the phone. He got my number through a common friend. Initially, he used to talk with me as an unknown person; I didn’t know his name. He revealed it to me later. I met him when we had just begun talking. Few days passed and our friendship grew stronger. He became my best buddy.

Then came the day when he proposed to me. I still remember it. It was Diwali night. He had called at midnight to say, “I love you. Do you love me Tillotama?” It was the most unforgettable moment of my life. I said to him, “yes.” The next day he had to leave for Pune to take his MBA exams. We couldn’t meet, but kept in touch over the phone. We both were happy. But then suddenly he realized that he couldn’t marry me, as I was six years younger to him. Yes, six years.

When we fall in love we don’t realize what we are doing. His family was opposed and we broke up. I felt terrible, but accepted it. It wasn’t his fault. We lost contact for two months. Whenever I called him, he ignored the call. It was the toughest part of my life. My friends supported me in those trying days. I knew that he won’t come back, but still I continued loving and thinking about him. I tried to forget him. It was tormenting, but I had to. I had to carry on in life without him.

Just when I had made up my mind, he returned and made it clear he won’t tie the knot with me, but would like to spend some beautiful moments with me to cherish them for the rest of his life. I agreed. I didn’t even think about my future. I just knew one thing — he loves me and I love him. After that brief interlude, we didn’t meet for nearly three months. It was a period of heartburns and tribulations. We had lots of quarrel, but we still stayed with each other. There was something that brought us together, but almost always there was acrimony over one thing or the other and we parted on a bitter note. It was strange, we could neither stay apart nor together. But there was always this strong bonding and we continued conversing on the phone. Hours used to pass and we couldn’t realize it. We cared a lot for each other.

After remaining apart and keeping alive the fire between us, we again met. That meeting was the most precious gift he had given me. I was tense and speechless when I met him for two hours. The next day, he left for Chennai on an official visit for five days and we couldn’t talk. Five days passed, he didn’t return. The date kept getting deferred. I kept waiting for the day when he would return and could talk again. The day we did, we had a fight over a small misunderstanding. Sometimes, lack of conversation can lead to misunderstandings that can never be sorted out. I tried a lot to resolve the differences, but he dint want it to happen. I don’t know why. I thought he was frustrated, as there was heaps of pending work in the office. I left him alone for few days, thinking time will bring him back. But he didn’t. Maybe, he never felt my need in his life.

Life seems to be so easy, but it’s not. Whatever happened, I am still grateful to him because he was the one with whom I fell in love. Now, when I feel like expressing myself, I can’t do that. He is not with me. I know, now he will never turn up. I still love him and will continue to love him. He is gone, but not his love.

EVER SINCE I can remember I had wanted to fall in love. And, not only fall in love, but fall in love with the right person. I wanted someone who would accept my faults and love me for who I am. I hopped from one relationship to another, each time being bitterly disappointed when my knight in shining amour turned out to be the opposite of what I expected and wanted. Finally, I decided that the elusive emotion of love wasn’t meant for me and I reconciled myself to the fact that I might never find my Mr Right. I should have known that God’s sense of humour is wicked, at the very least!

My first interaction with the person I fell in love with was explosive. We were working in the same company and I was his junior. One of my duties entailed transferring calls to him. Once he was on the phone and there were continuous calls coming for him. I was unable to see him, so I leant across my desk and called out to him, only to have him turn around and yell at me. I was so taken aback that I turned red and burst into tears. He had no choice but to come over and apologise, which I grudgingly accepted.

I think that guilt struck him some days later for he took my number and called me up one evening. It was supposed to be just one call but somehow they multiplied. I still remember how I used to go back home daily and crib to my mother that there was this one guy in office I couldn’t stand because he was always so stuck up. And, she used to look at me puzzled, wondering that if I couldn’t stand him how was it that I was talking to him for hours every evening. That was a question I couldn’t answer and didn’t even try to. And, neither did he.

As time passed, we realised that we were on the same wavelength, more so because both of us were trying to get out of destructive relationships at that time. Slowly from mutual dislike emerged a bond of empathy, which led to a lot of advice giving and taking and we started spending a lot of time together. He would come over every evening and we would sit together in his car, sip coffee and discuss the tumult of emotions our respective partners were putting us through. I still don’t know when this friendship blossomed into love - was it when I heard him talking about his girlfriend and felt the first arrow of jealousy prick me, or was it when I found myself waiting for his calls and visits?

I don’t know. And after three years of knowing him and two of loving him, it is still a mystery to me. When I look back now I wonder, was there actually a time when we didn’t know each other? I’m sure God must be having a good laugh for He brought me to the edge of despair before filling my life with sunshine.

This person is the joy of my life - he makes me laugh, he reduces me to tears, he still advises me and there are times when he even irritates me. But when I close my eyes at night, the one emotion that stays with me is the feeling of security that he gives me. We are not officially committed to each other, but some bonds don’t require a piece of paper. The union is already there, between our hearts and souls. And that I feel is above all rituals.

I don’t know what our future holds. His family is against me and being the only son he has a deep sense of responsibility towards them. Each day I wake up wondering whether this will be the day when I will lose him and each night I thank God for letting me share another day with him.

I got a very nice forward the other day. It said - when we were kids, we were eager to grow up and fall in love. Now that we are grown up we have realised that wounded knees were much better than broken hearts. But I would say, give me a broken heart any day, for even if I have to go through the agony of losing him, it will be worth it. For at least I had a chance to love him and be loved unconditionally by him. It’s not important to know if I will be with him 30 years from now, what’s important is that he makes me feel alive even for the 30 minutes that I spend with him. That is the biggest blessing I could ask for. The rest, as they say, is a bonus.